so, i need new friends.
not really content with my current circle. half are shit, the other half i hardly see and are bordering on being acquaintances. i've been watching 'the hills' all afternoon and it made me realise how much i miss having good, close girlfriends..the type of girlfriends i can go out for lunches with, have shopping dates and boozy nights out with...ones i can chill at home with, order pizza and drink wine, hang out at the beach or go to a day spa for a pamper session. for some reason i seem to attract difficult, complicated people into my life which results in friendships that are unfulfilling and hard to maintain.
it's funny how you can know a lot of people, yet still feel so alone. as lame as this sounds, if anyone is interested in being friends, holler at me..i'm actually a nice girl, if i do say so myself.
not really content with my current circle. half are shit, the other half i hardly see and are bordering on being acquaintances. i've been watching 'the hills' all afternoon and it made me realise how much i miss having good, close girlfriends..the type of girlfriends i can go out for lunches with, have shopping dates and boozy nights out with...ones i can chill at home with, order pizza and drink wine, hang out at the beach or go to a day spa for a pamper session. for some reason i seem to attract difficult, complicated people into my life which results in friendships that are unfulfilling and hard to maintain.
it's funny how you can know a lot of people, yet still feel so alone. as lame as this sounds, if anyone is interested in being friends, holler at me..i'm actually a nice girl, if i do say so myself.
love your blog! i went through the same thing you're going through, this time last year. the main circle of 'friends' really weren't good, close friends. just people i hung out with, occasionally. if nothing was being organised we barely spoke! i saw it as pointless friendship and i was also getting sick of their negativity and obsession with materialistic things! so i distanced myself and basically ended the friendship with all bar one of them.
ReplyDeletei have lots of "friends/acquaintances" and i guess i miss having close close friends like you say but i don't think i've had that since i've left school! sad :( i need friends too! lol
Loving your new header. I've never seen this photo before and i'm a Hills addict!
ReplyDeleteI'm kind of going through this too!
Unfortunately I have a feeling you're not in Sydney? :( I'd love to be new friends!
thanks poppy :) i feel like i'm going through the exact same thing you described! i've distanced myself from several so called 'friends' already, but the ones i have left are less than desirable as well bar maybe two or three. i would love to meet some fresh people but it's kind of hard when you don't really have the means to. i've joined a gym and start as of next week, maybe getting involved in things like this could be a place to meet new people.
ReplyDeleterachel, unfortunately i'm not in sydney (although i wish i was!) i'm in little old adelaide which is a shame because you seem like such a lovely girl! i guess we'll just have to settle as net-friends :)
the hills photo i just googled, i love how the girls have natural, happy expressions.
Aww hun, I just started reading your blog and I love it! Im also in your situation...well, my big friendship group split in high school and then I was left with 2 other girls (we got along really well then) and now...1 of them is knocked up to a random and the other just has an insane competitive streak and gets jelous at the drop of a hat. So, we arent really as tight as we used to be, and now Im left with alot of acquaintances. It's a shame you're not in Sydney because I would love to be friends :)
ReplyDeleteRachel, not sure if you will get this but you're from Sydney right? I actually found this blog through yours...friends? hehe :P
just read your comments, if only you were in bris, cuz like you i feel the same!!
ReplyDeletei crave for a friendship like girls!!
one day....im being hopeful.
It's amazing how many girls are in my position...I always think "oh everyone already has their friendship groups and they stick to them", I notice this with girls I talk to at Uni, so I feel a little less down about not being the only one feeling like I need some girlfriends hehe x
ReplyDeleteWhen I read your post, I realised that I too miss those kinds of friendships. Although I have really lovely friends, I don't get to see them enough, and it's usually for some kind of occasion rather than just casual hanging out.
ReplyDeleteI think making true good friends can take a lifetime.
ReplyDeleteover the years i've had many friends come and go.
very few have stood the test of time.
i think for guys its so much easier.
less drama
ahahahaha!!
i think its common for most women though.
how often do you see wedding photos and the bride doesn't speak to her bridesmaids anymore?!
This post has struck a cord with me too, as I'm in exactly the same situation!
ReplyDeleteIt's amazing/surprising that so many feel the same as well! If only we all lived in the same areas hehe.
ReplyDelete@Just a girl - it sounds like you're in brisbane? I am too! :)
I feel like this - knowing a lot of people but feeling alone.
ReplyDeleteI had some good news today, and the one I wanted to tell is the one I couldn't.
I'll hang out with you any day :)
@ little poppy yes i sure am
ReplyDeleteps. if it makes you feel better I actually went onto a site called brisbane exchange where you can post an add to meet new people and make friends, i totally did that, cuz i just dont know how Im meant to meet anyone outside my circle
Wow!
ReplyDeleteI'm surprised there are so many other people that feel the same way. I always thought I was the only one.
I try to believe good things come to those who wait, and I'm sure good close girlfriends are on the horizon for everyone :)
i am in the same boat as you i think. i always feel i'm in a rut here, for me perth is so limiting. i've lost a lot of the friends i used to have but it's ok as i don't like the direction they're heading. its always good to have at least one truly special friend though, i'm so glad for my bf :)
ReplyDeletexx
it's so refreshing and reassuring to know that I'm not the only one that feels this way. For the past year I've struggled with this lonely/empty feeling. I have a few close girlfriends, but it's always so hard to organize a time/place to catch up with them, and sometimes it just feels as though our lives are taking us indifferent paths and I no longer feel that 'connection' when I do see them.
ReplyDeleteWithout sounding desperate/needy, if any Melbourne girls feel like meeting someone new, holler at me as well =)
I am in the same boat as most of you...
ReplyDeleteI am the only single one left in my group and as of a few weeks ago, am now the only with without a child/or not pregnant.
I use to live in Adelaide, but I am in Brisbane now, what a shame! :(